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Reader Endorsements

"My good friend Allison Bottke has written a book, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, that may be a lifesaver for you or someone you know. Allison did tons of research, speaking with parents and other authorities, about how we can love our children without enabling them. About how we can honor God in our child-rearing efforts at an age when child-rearing is usually long finished." "If you have a twenty-something child, you need to read this book. Seriously. I have seen so many parents nearly bankrupt themselves and completely drain themselves emotionally because these ought-to-be-grown children can't seem to stand on their own two feet. We seem to be very good at making excuses for them, and not so good at setting boundaries." "I highly recommend this book." - Angela Hunt, Author, The Note, Tale of Three Trees, Doesn't She Look So Natural? and more. www.AngelaHuntBooks.com

"I only want the very best for my children. During their childhood I made them my priority, didn't work, laid a solid biblical foundation, attended all their activities and programs, and made sure to enrich their life experiences. Why then, am I met with disdain, disrespect, and resentment from my adult children? Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children gave me the answers! While I cannot change my children, I can change the way I respond and interact with them. Thank you, Allison, for teaching me the tools for SANITY." Lauren Littauer Briggs, author of The Art of Helping and Making the Blue Plate Special, www.laurenbriggs.com

"Lack of boundaries with adult children is a worldwide epidemic with catastrophic consequences, Allison shares not only her experience as a parent who has traveled this painful road, but gives readers concrete tools to stop the insanity and start living a life of hope and healing. Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children is destined to be the official resource of hope for countless parents and grandparents." - Heather Gemmen Wilson, author of Startling Beauty, My Journey from Rape to Restoration

"No one knows better the pain of dealing with adult children who have lost their way better than the parents of those without boundaries. Sometimes it feels as though the setting of these boundaries is more difficult than living with the anxiety, stress, and heartache, but that's not so. Allison Bottke, writing through her own hurt and experience, has compiled a masterpiece of advice. She doesn't just tell you or show you how it's done. She walks along beside you." - Eva Marie & Jessica Everson, Co-authors of Sex Lies and the Media and Sex, Lies, and High School

"Parent! If you've tried everything humanly possible to rescue your adult child, yet you find yourself still drowning in a sea of chaos, calamity and guilt, Allison's book is the lifesaver you've been searching for. It's filled with practical ways that will set you free to get on with your life." - Judy Hampton, author of Ready? Set? Go! - How Parents with Prodigals Can Get on with their Lives

"Allison Bottke has stepped forward in a courageous, straight-from-the-heart manner and dealt with an issue that has plagued parents since the dawn of time: setting (and enforcing) boundaries for rebellious adult children. Having been not only a parent but a pastor who faced this issue countless times, I am excited to see that a mother who has wrestled with demons to see her child delivered has written a heartfelt yet practical book of advice and encouragement that will bless each and every one who reads it." - Kathi Macias, author of 20 books, including Mothers of the Bible Speak to Mothers Today

“This book will launch a brand new beginning in your life. You may feel you are in a desert place right now as you struggle with a parenting crisis, but be alert! There’s a stream in the wasteland—and you can begin making hope-filled choices that will forever change your future for the better.” - Carol Kent, Speaker and Author, When I Lay My Isaac Down and A New Kind of Normal

“This has been a crippling plague sweeping our nation for decades, but the component of parents and grandparents taking on the majority of the responsibility is relatively new—yet growing in phenomenal numbers.” - Carl Mosen, Founder, The REACH Foundation

“When it comes to dealing with adult children who have drug and/or alcohol abuse issues, I think the main contributing factor we must get over is fear.” - Stacy Brower, Board Chairman, The REACH Foundation

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Pastoral Endorsements

"I can't say enough about Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children. I don't know anyone who wouldn't profit from reading this book, whatever their life stage or particular situation may be, because we are all not only in need of wise guidance ourselves (as parents, as children, as grandparents, as siblings), but all of us also know many others (friends, family members, etc.) who desperately need the sanity-saving wisdom of this book." Bob Hostetler, Pastor of Leadership and Teaching, Cobblestone Community Church, Oxford, OH

"To some readers this book will arrive 'just in time,' releasing them from the bondage of a present crisis. To others, this book will serve as a 'how-to' manual when the unwanted crisis comes knocking. To many, this timely teaching will serve as a mirror, exposing lies and revealing the truth. But Allison Bottke doesn't leave us sulking at our reflection. In Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, she places within our hands a prescription. When filled and faithfully followed, her writings will bring hope and healing." Pastor Steve Hill, Senior Pastor, Heartland World Ministries Church, Las Colinas, TX, Author, Operating in the Miraculous

"I have talked with many parents who know they need boundaries with both their adult and adolescent kids. They are apprehensive about setting limits and fearful of enforcing them. Readers will identify with Allison. She offers many helpful suggestions on establishing and implementing workable boundaries that will bring harmony back to families. I recommend her book to all parents." Pastor Larry Bodmer, Director of Biblical Counseling, Overlake Christian Church, Redmond, WA